Isolation is a coping mechanism that is good yet so bad for us.
We have a habbit of pushing everyone away and making distance to them for some reasons.
Sometimes it’s because everything went heavy and we feel that we have to push them away, but not to save ourselves from them but rather to save them from us.
We know that they might suffer too, so we ghost them and don’t talk to them.
Leaving no message or reason because you too can’t understand yourself within.
Comebacks like nothing happened, and bond with them.
Though we have the guilt in our heart and minds that we are a bad person and we don’t deserve them to the point where we never bounce back to them.
Thinking we don’t deserve everyone and everything good in this world.
Thinking that I have to do this alone.
Thinking that no one can help or save us.
Thinking and blaming ourselves that we’re always the problem.
Thinking that they deserve better .
Wondering and asking ourselves:
“If ever that thing never happened to me, will I become stable so I can enjoy my life more freely?”
“If ever I open my problems to them, will they listen to me? will they understand me?”
“Will they judge me if I show my other side? My isolated self side?”
Isolation is a temporary solution to get away from everything that makes us feel heavy. We often do it to protect ourselves or someone else. But it is not the solution for a certain issue that we are facing.
I myself believe that we adapt isolation from our household.
We often speak our thoughts and concerns to our family.
Ending up being judged and yelled at by them.
Commonly, they don’t listen to us.
And so we gained the feeling that we’re not safe and we have to distance ourselves.
Going to the corner of our house and sulking at their act.
Not talking about the problem and just making yourself calm down.
Waiting for that moment so you can continue your life.
Isolation is a serious issue that we have to talk about
It’s like having a pandemic. We tend to isolate ourselves to protect ourselves from virus, but we also do it to protect everyone because we might have the virus. We are scared to be infected and scared to infect somebody. Becauce we feel that if we share our thoughts to them, either they will judge us or we will be burden to them.
It is normal to isolate and ghost everyone when you feel that everything is heavy. But don’t forget to bounce back, because there might be someone worrying about you. Don’t think that you are a burden. Everyone deserves to be understood, and it is not your fault for struggling. Never think that you are a problem just because you act on your feelings. Remember that your feelings are valid. No one should judge you because it is your feeling, not theirs. They will never be you, and they will never know what you experienced. An experience that built and ruined you.
It is okay to isolate when you have a problem or when you can’t understand yourself. But it is not okay to think that you have to solve everything alone. It is not bad to seek help from others, just as everyone seeks helps from you. You deserve good things in life. You deserve someone you can count on. And more importantly, you deserve to be understood.
God is with you, sometimes you don’t feel it.
But trust me, God is there; he’s guiding you for something good that you will never expect.
Trust
Wait
And have faith
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
I’M HERE
WE’RE HERE
AND GOD IS HERE
Isolating yourself not only to calm yourself but also to understand what you are feeling. Try to understand what you are feeling and ask yourself why do you feel that way. If this is something that you have control over, then try to solve it and take action about it. But if this is something that you’re out of control of, then leave it and forget it. Free your mind from things over which you don’t have control. Let the wind decide where it will go. You are deserving to be loved, to be known, and to be understood.
Sometimes, we feel that we want to disappear, but all we really want is to be found and to be hear.
